You can be the voice that tells someone to keep going, who sees their strength when they cannot see their own.
Destructive coping mechanisms are like resilient pests that keep coming back. Sometimes they are so sneaky you don’t know they are there until you turn around and see the years of damage. Overcompensating Just as your body compensates for injury to avoid pain, so do your mind and heart. If you sprain your left ankle,Continue reading “The Pain of Overcompensation”
During a jovial conversation last week, I heard myself say, “If I don’t do it perfectly, I’m garbage.” My friend had a look in her eye as if she didn’t know whether to be concerned or amused. I wasn’t sure how I felt either. I know I hold myself to unrealistic standards but hadn’t beforeContinue reading “If I'm Not Perfect, I'm Garbage”
Most of us want a reason. We want to know why someone treated us like something less than human with their beatings, their calloused cruelty, their systemic stripping of our ability to trust. Tragically, too many of us blame ourselves. We try to reconcile our living nightmares by transferring responsibility onto our shoulders, “I needContinue reading “No Excuse Exists for Abuse”
After viewing my recent podcast on emotional abuse, a friend of mine asked, “What can one person do though?” My answer is not new, instant, or sexy. It’s simple yet requires great self-control; we can LISTEN to the people we say we care about. I don’t mean politely nodding our heads while thinking about howContinue reading “What Can One Person Do?”
Hard work. Discipline. Sacrifice. Consistency. All are inconvenient and uncomfortable. Success – in any pursuit – accepts no less. Its road is precarious, full of sharp rocks, unpredictable mudslides, and unseen predators. We’ve all heard it; “If you work hard enough, you’ll figure it out. When it’s hard, work harder.” Great. It makes sense; ifContinue reading “Environment, Outcome, and Getting off the Treadmill”
Have you ever stood at an event, or in the audience of a performance, and wondered what all the fuss was about? People are clapping, screaming, jumping, crying, fighting, fainting, and your left standing in the middle trying to figure out where the free ice cream truck must have pulled in. Upon realizing there isContinue reading “Meet People Where they Are”