Most of us want a reason. We want to know why someone treated us like something less than human with their beatings, their calloused cruelty, their systemic stripping of our ability to trust.
Tragically, too many of us blame ourselves. We try to reconcile our living nightmares by transferring responsibility onto our shoulders, “I need to try harder to be better. If I am better, they will be happy. They will love me.”
“Trying to be better” looks different for everyone. In my observation, we hold up something (achievement/beauty/social media following/a million other things) like a title to a new paid off care. We wave it around as if to say, “Look! Look! Here is the tangible proof of how much I’m worth. I paid my debt. You can love me now!”Continue reading “No Excuse Exists for Abuse”